I coach women who have been externally competent and capable for so long that they have stopped being able to hear themselves.
The work we do is about getting that signal back.
What I keep noticing in the women I work work
She’s competent and other people would say she has it all together. She probably says she’s “fine” when someone asks how she’s doing.
What she does not say out loud is that she’s been making decisions by checking what other people seem to need from her for so long that she isn’t sure what she wants anymore. The yes comes out before she has finished the thought. She takes on more than she has space for and feels resentful in a way she won’t let herself name. She’s tired in a way that sleep doesn’t fix, and she suspects rest would help, but the moment she stops moving, something uncomfortable comes up that she doesn’t want to look at.
She’s hard on herself for all of this and thinks she should be able to figure it out on her own. The challenge is that she can’t because the thing she has lost is the one thing she would need to figure it out. She has lost trust in what she knows.
The work we do together
What I offer is a way of listening that helps you hear yourself. This is not a twelve-week program with outlined steps to follow or a one-size-fits-all method I squeeze you into. You are unique and therefore the support you deserve should also uniquely suit you.
The patterns you’re working with have kept you safe for a long time. Your tendency to over-give, anticipate, and do more... they got you here, and the work is not about getting rid of them, but instead noticing what they’ve cost you and what is trying to come forward in you now that they have run their course.
I am certified through Integral Coaching, a methodology built around the specific woman in front of me rather than a curriculum that gets applied to everyone the same way. Together we build a precise picture (through the use of metaphors) of who you are now and who is trying to emerge, and we create small, deliberate practices to work towards the actual life you are living.
Some of the women I have worked with have moved from a Selfless Party Host to an Intentional Gardener, from a Responsible Waterfall to a Grounded Fire. The metaphors are personal and emerge from what we see together based on how she describes her current state and how she would like to feel and be in the future.
Two ways to begin
Single Session Conversation
If something specific is on your mind right now, a Single Session is one hour on a specific topic or challenge you’d like to explore. You’ll leave with a deepened sense of awareness and a feel and tools to start moving towards greater alignment on that topic.
3-6 Month Program
If what you are noticing is bigger than one conversation, we work together over three or six months, meeting every two weeks. This work moves slowly on purpose so that you move from deepened self-awareness to lasting behaviour change.
Hi, I’m Kathleen
I’m Kathleen, an empathetic, nature-loving, workaholic turned slow morning girly. I was raised on three continents to Dutch and Cuban parents and am currently based in Antigua, Guatemala. I came to coaching after 10 years in the corporate and then nonprofit sector, where I began to notice how many of us, particularly the ones deeply passionate about their work, have learned to leave themselves behind to keep going. I came to this work through my own version of that.
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"Kathleen created such a safe space for me to explore what I was going through. She made me feel like everything I felt was completely valid, and that openness was so powerful. The way she guided me through my thoughts and patterns helped me make breakthroughs I hadn’t been able to reach on my own. And her holistic approach tied everything together—understanding my energy levels, how I impact others, and how I let external energy affect me. It all clicked in a way I hadn’t expected."
Iona
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"Kathleen allowed to me feel like I could show up in all my weird and wonderful ways, completely without judgment. She has this really gentle but powerful way of nudging you in a new direction—challenging you in a way that feels kind, but meaningful. She could hear things I didn’t even realize I was saying, helping me see what was buried deep inside. I felt so seen and supported throughout the entire process."
Eilidh
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"Kathleen holds a safe space from the very beginning, which made it easy for me to open up fully. She taps into exactly what you need in the moment—her coaching is intuitive, thoughtful, and tailored to you... Kathleen didn’t just help me understand where I was and where I wanted to go, but she gave me the tools to actively get there."
Iris
If something on this page has landed and you’re feeling a sparkle of curiosity…
This is your invitation to follow that whisper. The discovery call is a conversation, not a sales pitch. We talk about what you’re working on, and we explore together whether this is the right fit.